1. I no longer own more than three sets of sheets for our bed. Gone are the days of sheets for every holiday and season. I now have three sets of sheets, all white. I don't have the energy for a closet full of chaos anymore.
2. I no longer allow myself to feel any sort of way about the life I choose to live. I realize now that I can live my life the way I choose, and others are free to criticize me for that if they feel the need.
3. I no longer care if something is marked "Not Dishwasher Safe." I will take my chances.
4. I no longer vacuum because it is Friday. I like lists and make them, but I don't let them override my common sense. If the floor isn't dirty, it doesn't need to be cleaned. This realization is a perk of aging, and I am here for it.
5. I no longer watch the news daily. I do not need that kind of negativity in my life. News spreads quickly, and if something happens that I need to know, I can check in then. Or not.
6. I no longer worry about repairing relationships that drained the life right out of me. Trying to support, comfort, and be there for someone unable or unwilling to do the same for you is toxic, and it is really alright to admit that, wish them well, and move forward.
7. I no longer apologize or downplay my superpower. I own it.
8. I no longerhave to put the house to bed at night. I have a sweet teenage daughter who folds all the blankets, arranges the pillows, unplugs the lights, empties the dishwasher, and takes out the trash after I go to bed. And I am thankful.
9. I no longer deny that my hero, my inspiration, is no other than Mother Bear. She is everything I want to be. Well, except for the not being human part.
Happy Wednesday!
Billie Jo
What a great post, Billie Jo! I really enjoyed the graphics you used to make your points. It took me years, but I have gotten to the point where I can wield the word NO without an explanation, reason or excuse. Happy Wednesday!
ReplyDeleteI love this Billie Jo and I am the same way about everything. Have a great Wednesday my friend.
ReplyDeleteSo good and I'm with you on these things! Except I wish I had a Flynn! :)
ReplyDeleteYes to every word! Thank you for putting it in writing for all of us - I absolutely agree with you, but I still waste time asking myself (when it comes to toxic people) “Why?” Why are people comfortable saying things like: “How can you stand to shop there?” When I’m simply choosing the grocery store with the best prices, while perhaps not the most stylish grocery in town. And because I’m rather reserved and quiet, to be told “You don’t fit in.” Is incredibly stunning to hear. While I’m becoming bolder with my responses (in my old age!) I still waste too much time worrying about it. Thank you for buoying me up! You’ve done well, Mama Bear - as evidenced by what a thoughtful young lady Flynn is!
ReplyDeleteGood for Flynn for taking care of all those things before she goes to bed. That's a real sign of being responsible. The dishwasher safe one made me chuckle. I never understood why they're not dishwasher safe....will they explode? And the "birds" instead of the news made my heart sing! Thank you for bringing a smile to my face first thing in the morning, Billie Jo. : ) Have a sweet day.
ReplyDeleteLove this! Life goals! I have some of them down already. (The dishwasher one? For sure!) Still working on some of them. And eagerly anticipating the day when my floor will not be so dirty to require daily vacuuming!
ReplyDeleteI have not watched the news in years thankfully
ReplyDeleteI do clean every morning because I like to do so
I cook for myself daily because I enjoy it
I get my miles and steps daily
I keep lists on my planner.
If I decide to skip something oh well lol
Enjoy your positive blogs
Thank you
Brenda
Yes, Yes, Yes to all and I especially am so glad that number 3 shows me that I'm not alone in that.
ReplyDeleteInteresting about the sheets. We now just use one set. I just wash them and put them back on the bed. Good point in #2. We seldom use our dishwasher much anymore but I usually trust things on the top rack. I agree with you on the floor. I never watch the news and that is nice that you can also move on. That is so sweet of your daughter. I like your hero too!
ReplyDeleteI agree with all of this! Especially the toxic relationship one! For sure no fancy sheets, especially when no one else even sees them.
ReplyDeleteAmen to all of this.
ReplyDeleteI love this!
ReplyDeleteI so love this! I remember the days of watching Little Bear. Such a peaceful show! I'm with you on the sheets. I have two sets. One that is a just in case set. I generally wash my bedding and put it right back on the bed.
ReplyDeleteI vacuum like I iron__ On demand! If I don't go into a room for a while it does not get vacuumed until I deem it necessary. We do not use our upper floor of our house at all except for TheHub's office and he is responsible for the upkeep there. The rest is happy to be untended until we have company.
ReplyDeleteHi Billie Jo! I LOVE this post!! As we are moving to our new home, I have donated several sets of sheets, and I realized I did not need anywhere near as many sheets as I have! I also love the part about toxic people and relationships. I'm right there with you on that! As for the news, the last time I watched the news was January 20, 2025. Since that day, I've been totally with you. I don't need the negativity and divineness the news often brings! Thanks for this post. It affirms pretty much exactly what I feel. See you again soon!
ReplyDeleteNo on the news for sure. There are so many other lovely things I can do that I choose to spend my time on. Have a great night Billie Jo. I'd love for you to visit me again. I miss you over on my blog!
ReplyDeleteThis is a great list of "No longer Cares". How sweet that Flynn takes care of closing down the house in the evening...You are Blessed. As for the news!! I detest watching it. My sweet husband watches it an I occasionally have to hear about it from him, but I really do not have a place in my life for the negativity either. Amen Billie Jo..I'm with you here.
ReplyDeleteWell, Billie Jo I would say that you have found what works for you and that is a very good thing. I agree with most of them, but we all have different desires and ways that make us happy and content with ourselves and life in general. It's good to stop letting outside influences rule our lives. We only live this life once, so make it count :) Have a blessed day!
ReplyDeleteOh, I entered the "I do not care club" a few years ago and I keep adding to it. :) I love some of yours. It is freeing!!!
ReplyDeleteI am with you in your ideas. It can be quite freeing. I enjoy the photos of your children on the sidebar, they look healthy and happy, which makes mom happy of course.
ReplyDeleteGreat post! One of the perks of getting older is being able to let go of so many things that used to be so important!
ReplyDeleteI agree on all of these. I quit watching the news because I started questioning whether it wasn't being influenced by social media! It was hard to know what was real. And good news doesn't sell, I guess, so we were just bombarded by the negative every. single. day. That's not good for your mental health and makes everything seem worse; like a boulder rolling downhill. The older I get the more autonomy I express. The friend thing is spot on.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry I missed this yesterday...but I am here now, right? I loved reading the 10 things you no longer do! I could nod in agreement with every one of them. I wish I had been as wise as you when I was your age. But once I finally came to those conclusions, I have had so much less drama in my life. :)
ReplyDeleteWow! regarding #6. I'm pondering that one. Thanks for all of these thoughts.
ReplyDeleteThis is such a great post. I agree with it all. Well, I just have 2 sets of sheets. Winter fleece and summer cotton. I just wash them and put them back on the bed. The camper has the same. :-)
ReplyDeleteYou are an inspiration to me. I wish that I was brave enough to always just do the things I want to do. Sometimes I cave in and do things I'm not very comfortable with.
Blessings and hugs,
Betsy